LOL, I have 7 people I can't exactly cater to the 1 who refuses to eat what's for dinner 5 times a week.
And I'm not mean to her if I refused what was for dinner growing up I was told starve. I just frankly don't have the time or the money to make her a special dinner everyday, especially when she doesn't do anything she's asked most of the time...
OMG, I was your daughter growing up minus the adhd. I was the only vegetarian in a house that was on a farm where we actually GREW our own meat. My room was also a horrid mess no matter what my neat-freak mom threatened.
However, I solved the catering to the odd eater by becoming the cook. I cooked their abhorrent meat products for them, and cooked something else for me.
As a mom now, you have my sympathies. I was a bitch to raise. But I turned into an awesome adult!!!