Marriage counselor should have lost their license. Have your army buddy call the board (this is the RIGHT thing to do, btw, not a vindictive thing).
I can't tell you how many jerks (is that too facile?) I've worked with in the field. One (among many) was a substance abuse counselor who worked with me in the prison (whose office was a 'fishbowl') ---- well, he used to 'nod' off in front of the inmates.
I knew because my guys came running to my office: Ms. (Me), Mr. so-and-so is asleep and his finger is on the keyboard.
I'm sure it was any old letter, but I always imagined that it was a 'z' that they were watching:
zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Unreal. Please, have your buddy report that counselor. No board will stand for that - and they shouldn't.