BF putting me in a bad spot.. Him and sisters want me to be "companion" for their 90 year old mother who is in assisted living. Involves hour or so every morning, plus hour travel time - $25. How to say no thanks without offending?
Quite frankly, I'd be the one who was offended. I assume that they see your turking as not working, so you've got all this spare time to ...not work, except for them. If you feel that you just have to justify a no, tell them you're working those hours, the same as them(assuming that they are all employed and at work). There appears to be enough of them to care for their mother. It is NOT your responsibility. It's theirs and they are obviously trying to put it on some one else. I know this scenario too well. I've been an artist for years and people see me at home (where I worked at my art), without a job (outside of the house for a boss who wasn't me), and therefore free to do things for other people. For free usually. I've had this type of thing happen numerously over the years. One of my father's distant cousins tried this one on me, too. I was at university, but he said I could skip a year!!! and care for his bed ridden wife--who I'd never met. I didn't know him either!. The man was retired and AT HOME ALL DAY. Women are seen as automatic caregivers, whether they want to be or not. Tell the fools NO.....and if that's the way they picture your place in their lives, you might want to start looking for new BF, too.............sorry for the rant, but this kinda thing really pisses me off.