Dating Advice!

[Peachy]

I feel like a jerk now. sigh

 

[JenniLeigh]

I just contacted her and said that she was right in wanting to be friends and her dad is what's important

I hope I didn't mess up already

I think you missed our points :/

Just leave her alone homie...

 

[Peachy]

I think you missed our points :/

Just leave her alone homie...

i got attached. technically she shouldn't have been on a dating app from the start, but i'm past that. i messed up with what i said earlier to her (and trying to escalate). i'll leave her alone. i just extended the friendship branch just to let her know I was wrong and that I am here.

So in your mind, she told me she wanted to be friends so solely I would leave her alone?

 

[Peachy]

She just said I'm glad I came around and am willing to be friends

 

[Horse Feathers]

She just said I'm glad I came around and am willing to be friends

Glad to see that. You've got a penchant for beating yourself up too much amigo. You didn't do anything TO HER that warrants you feeling like a jerk. This situation is more a function of bad timing IMO.

 

[Peachy]

Glad to see that. You've got a penchant for beating yourself up too much amigo. You didn't do anything TO HER that warrants you feeling like a jerk. This situation is more a function of bad timing IMO.

i didn't feel like i did anything too major to her. just pushing the dating aspect too hard i guess (which wasn't much the last month)
i'm glad i'm still on civil terms with her

 

[Empress328]

i didn't feel like i did anything too major to her. just pushing the dating aspect too hard i guess (which wasn't much the last month)
i'm glad i'm still on civil terms with her

You were jerky, but it was a move born of ignorance, not you were playing some power game with her.

 

[BirdPerson.]

I have recently had a lot of dreams that she didn't once appear in, and it feels so fucking good not to wake up tired and miserable. Though I would still do almost anything to know how she's doing, I guess it's none of my business anymore.

 

[lil queen trashmouth]

During this time I responded to any kind man by fucking them, and withdrew from any man who seemed too forward/aggressive sexually. In the next couple of years I learned that predators came out of the woodwork under the guise of being a kind, sympathetic man.

You worded this much better than I could've and god is it true. Except sometimes I would fuck the forward/sexually aggressive ones too, just to prove to myself that I wasnt shit and didn't deserve shit. To this day I put up with more shit than I should from men & cling for dear life to any man who is nice to me and doesn't try to fuck me within 10 seconds

 

[BirdPerson.]

I think you missed our points :/

Just leave her alone homie...

I really could have done with people that made this much sense a long time ago... I always tried to be there for someone who i didn't feel like wanted me to be there any more. Probably because they were way too busy being there for other people. I really sucked quite badly... It'd be cool to think well, at least i've learned a lot of lessons from it, but i wish i'd learned them sooner, because i'm 99% sure i'm never bothering again, which i'm fine with now. I just wish i'd learned more about people before i fucked up with my favourite one.

I guess i'll just get a little high again, that should do it.

 

[El Pablo]

I am for reals having nachos from Taco Bell today.

 

[Jharkan]

You worded this much better than I could've and god is it true. Except sometimes I would fuck the forward/sexually aggressive ones too, just to prove to myself that I wasnt shit and didn't deserve shit. To this day I put up with more shit than I should from men & cling for dear life to any man who is nice to me and doesn't try to fuck me within 10 seconds

:: sets up an 11 second timer ::

 

[lil queen trashmouth]

:: sets up an 11 second timer ::

This legit made me laugh out loud

 

[Vanyanka]

You worded this much better than I could've and god is it true. Except sometimes I would fuck the forward/sexually aggressive ones too, just to prove to myself that I wasnt shit and didn't deserve shit. To this day I put up with more shit than I should from men & cling for dear life to any man who is nice to me and doesn't try to fuck me within 10 seconds

You aren't shit and you deserve a lot. I've been through my (many) self-destructive phases too and it's always good if you can come out on the other end and recognize it, which you have. :heart:

 

[Vanyanka]

i got attached. technically she shouldn't have been on a dating app from the start, but i'm past that.

Maybe she shouldn't have been but it's not fair to blame her for that when she's in such a vulnerable place. People don't think clearly in traumatic situations.

 

[lil queen trashmouth]

You aren't shit and you deserve a lot. I've been through my (many) self-destructive phases too and it's always good if you can come out on the other end and recognize it, which you have. :heart:

:revolvingheart::revolvingheart::revolvingheart:

If I could stop repeating the pattern that would really be awesome. I have high enough self awareness to know what I'm doing and low enough self esteem to keep doing it, which is like the worst possible combo, sadlol.

 

[Jharkan]

Around here "you ain't shit" means you're worth nothing.

Apparently you guys are saying it like "you ain't a piece of shit"

 

[lil queen trashmouth]

Around here "you ain't shit" means you're worth nothing.

Apparently you guys are saying it like "you ain't a piece of shit"

I meant it as the first, I'm assuming @Vanyanka meant it as the second because she is lovely and not a monster

 

[Vanyanka]

I meant it as the first, I'm assuming @Vanyanka meant it as the second because she is lovely and not a monster

Ha! I did mean it as the second!

 

[lil queen trashmouth]

Ha! I did mean it as the second!

Das why I laff u