I completely understand...
Living in San Diego, I know a lot of people in the military, and existence in San Diego while being in the military is much different than the non-military existence. Also, I'm not saying the jobs will just drop in one's lap, as it is dependent upon their education, experience, and competition. Also, I'd image that while many employers here are sympathetic and understanding of what military spouses go through, these same employers still have to look-out for their own interests and my not want to hire someone who may have to relocate in the somewhat near-future...
In regards to horses, I live right next to the Del Mar & Rancho Santa Fe area, which is horse territory, but it's also retired multi-millionaire territory, so stabling a horse is astronomically expensive. East County is an affordable place for large animals and acreage, but it's hard to live all the way out there and away from the coast if a spouse needs to at one of the Navy bases.