Turker Parents Unite!

[TinaBanina]

Yeah - I was trying to explain it to him simply but I really wasn't prepared so I felt like I was in the hot seat! I like the organization factor of books

Oh, I totally get it. She is 9 now, so this was a while ago. lol.

 

[ItsAmyTee]

Any tips for babies who are fussy after their shots?

 

[Sondi]

Any tips for babies who are fussy after their shots?

Tylenol (maybe not for a very young baby - ask her Dr.) and distraction - car rides or stroller rides if those work for your baby!

 

[theturkscribe]

I have run out of patience with a 5 and 7 year old arguing all the time. (I have the neighbor 2/3 times a week, I just have 1 kiddo myself) I'm thinking I'm going to try the make them both wear 1 giant tshirt together and do a task like cleanup. I think it will be a funny way to make them work it out what do y'all think?

 

[themildone]

I have run out of patience with a 5 and 7 year old arguing all the time. (I have the neighbor 2/3 times a week, I just have 1 kiddo myself) I'm thinking I'm going to try the make them both wear 1 giant tshirt together and do a task like cleanup. I think it will be a funny way to make them work it out what do y'all think?

whoops just saw this...please tell me you did it?

 

[theturkscribe]

whoops just saw this...please tell me you did it?

Not quite - I mean it did help at first to make a point in a funny way but it didn't actually teach them to work together that well.
You would probably also have to do some old fashioned theater trust games or something around the same time to really make the lesson stick.
I don't know if anything would have worked at the end of the summer. Now they will only have a few hours each week together so things should be better. (And of course I'll have a break and be able to handle them better now! YAY YAY YAY)

 

[themildone]

Not quite - I mean it did help at first to make a point in a funny way but it didn't actually teach them to work together that well.
You would probably also have to do some old fashioned theater trust games or something around the same time to really make the lesson stick.
I don't know if anything would have worked at the end of the summer. Now they will only have a few hours each week together so things should be better. (And of course I'll have a break and be able to handle them better now! YAY YAY YAY)

oh yeah, I can almost guarantee they'll get along fine now that school's back in. I used to literally live with my best friend during most summer breaks and by the end of the break we were at each other's throats. after a week of school we were besties again lol

 

[Jaded]

you know how sometimes teenagers (specifically teenage girls) get all angsty and everything sucks and life is awful.

HOw are you supposed to respond to that? Do you just say "yeah, that sucks" or do you actually try and help? Cause it seems like help is not wanted.

 

[jan]

you know how sometimes teenagers (specifically teenage girls) get all angsty and everything sucks and life is awful.

HOw are you supposed to respond to that? Do you just say "yeah, that sucks" or do you actually try and help? Cause it seems like help is not wanted.

all they want is for you to be outraged. and if you're not, they dismiss you (you don't understand!)
They don't want help. They've got it all figured out..............

 

[themildone]

you know how sometimes teenagers (specifically teenage girls) get all angsty and everything sucks and life is awful.

HOw are you supposed to respond to that? Do you just say "yeah, that sucks" or do you actually try and help? Cause it seems like help is not wanted.

I obviously don't have teenagers yet but I would be like 'oh wow that sucks' (like @jan said, they want you to be outraged lol) but if you have advice, I'd give it. But then again, I was never one of those teens who felt the need to do the exact opposite of advice given to me, so...ymmv? lol

 

[Jaded]

I obviously don't have teenagers yet but I would be like 'oh wow that sucks' (like @jan said, they want you to be outraged lol) but if you have advice, I'd give it. But then again, I was never one of those teens who felt the need to do the exact opposite of advice given to me, so...ymmv? lol

all they want is for you to be outraged. and if you're not, they dismiss you (you don't understand!)
They don't want help. They've got it all figured out..............

haha, well any time I try and say "hey well look at it this way" to make it less miserable I'm either "on their side" (whoever they may be) or I'm not listening. So I think I'll just go with "ugh that sucks" or variations

 

[theturkscribe]

you know how sometimes teenagers (specifically teenage girls) get all angsty and everything sucks and life is awful.

HOw are you supposed to respond to that? Do you just say "yeah, that sucks" or do you actually try and help? Cause it seems like help is not wanted.

I would say listen a LOT be slow to speak and buy the ice cream. Then you can ask questions that can get them to the right answer but don't just out right tell them what are we gonna do about this.

 

[Sondi]

Filing away all this teenager nonsense for future reference... as a former teenage girl when I was 'stormy' I usually wanted to be left alone to do angry dramatic journaling. But I have 3 sisters and we all went through that time differently (some with more shouting than others). Just depends on the person. I did also like spending time with my mom when I was upset - just not talking about it. We would always go thrift store shopping together or bake something.... so it was nice to have distractions.

 

[theturkscribe]

Yeah and you can't make any judgements about how it's not worth this much reaction because developmentally they can't get there. Their brains are basically psychotic. Any way - I always like to start with where are they at developmentally so I can adjust my expectations, that changes a lot of what I do.

 

[ItsAmyTee]

Any tips for turking with a very curious and terrifyingly mobile 8 month old destroying your house? Can it be done? Am I kidding myself?

 

[Sondi]

Any tips for turking with a very curious and terrifyingly mobile 8 month old destroying your house? Can it be done? Am I kidding myself?

I have one solid hour in the morning and an iffy hour in the afternoon where I can focus. If luck is with me I find a lot to do during those times! The rest of the time I just pick at it. Mine are 2 and 4

also babyproof everything you can to reduce stress. It's a tough time!

 

[theturkscribe]

Any tips for turking with a very curious and terrifyingly mobile 8 month old destroying your house? Can it be done? Am I kidding myself?

Ooohhhhhh except for naptime IDK it does sound impossible.
Good luck!

 

[DareAngel3]

Any tips for turking with a very curious and terrifyingly mobile 8 month old destroying your house? Can it be done? Am I kidding myself?

I moved my desk into my living room so that I could "monitor" more easily. Mine are 5 and 3, now, and I miss the "baby" stage before they had fully developed their destruction abilities! I home-school, also, so I can usually get a puzzle or activity going if a really good HIT/batch drops. I also made an entire section of cabinets/fridge "self-serve" with snacks they can handle grabbing themselves (cubed cheese, sliced meat, hummus, crackers, applesauce pouches, etc) so in the event there's a turkocalypse, no one will starve

 

[scrmcasey]

Any tips for turking with a very curious and terrifyingly mobile 8 month old destroying your house? Can it be done? Am I kidding myself?

Make sure to lock your computer every time you get up. Every. Single. Time.

 

[keladry2009]

Any tips for turking with a very curious and terrifyingly mobile 8 month old destroying your house? Can it be done? Am I kidding myself?

i say let em' destroy it, within reason of course, i usually clean up during naps and after bed. you should have seen my house today hahaha it was a war zone. definitely keep the mouse and keyboard away from reaching distance while youre AFK and cover the light on your power button on your desktop or laptop.